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Four Rules to Live By

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Let’s do a little check in!! How is your sparkling new year going?! How are those goals, those resolutions, and healthy habits?

Not so great? Well don’t you worry.  I was just rereading a chapter from one of my fav Marianne Williamson books and I was reminded of these four simple rules to make miracles happen.  I’m all about makin miracles and magic happen, so I decided to adopt these rules as my theme for the year.  Check them out!

 1. Be Positive.

Positive people are just the BEST!  Let’s live on the sunny side of the street, spread joy, and lift people’s spirits.  Not only is it just way more fun than the alternative, but did you ever notice how positive people tend to get promoted, get offered new jobs, and get new opportunities? Positivity is contagious.  Everybody wants a piece of it and everybody wants to be around it.  Be the bright beam that everybody gravitates towards this year!

2. Send Love.

Love is seriously the best thing you can give another person.  Romance or not (and lord knows I looooove romance), sharing love---even if it’s just a mental hug--can shift some big stuff.  I remember way back in the day when I was teaching, I would think of my “tricky” students and blast them with love before I would arrive at school.  Not only did it change my attitude towards them, but it changed our whole teacher/student relationship! The “tricky” people in our life just need a little more love.  So give it to them!

3. Have funnnn!!!

Yes! Yes! Let’s ALL agree to have waaaay more fun this year!! Life is so short and I don’t want to waste another second not having the time of my life.  Dance in the streets!  Sing with that  steel drum player guy in the Subway at Times Square!  Stay up too late chatting with your girlfriends over wine [or dude friends...Uhh...grunt at football games over beer?]  Enjoy this crazy ride we’re on.   We’re not getting any younger;)

4. Kick Ass.

Whatever you do, kick ASS doing it.  Whatever job you’re in, be freakin amazing at it.  I don’t care if you’re a janitor, be the BEST janitor this side of the universe has ever SEEN! No being flakey.  No being lame about meaningless tasks.  Put all your energy into making the work you do AMAZING and more of the work that you care about will come your way.  It’s science;)

So those are my commitments to this sparkling year! Sheer positivity, endless love, insane amounts of fun, and lots of kick ass-ing.   Whatya say? Are you in? Leave me a comment and share your commitments for the year!

To the best year EVER! xo name

The Luckiest

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"Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don't need to escape from."

Seth Godin

 

Alert the East Hampton Star! I have left my five mile radius of East Hampton!

I am currently sitting in the JetBlue terminal at JFK feeling like the luckiest because I get to enjoy the gorgeousness of the Turks & Caicos with my amazing family in just a few short hours.   As bizarre and dumb as it sounds, I was actually a little sad to leave the sweet little home I’ve found in the Hamptons...especially in the middle of summer when one week feels like an entire season.

My journey here this morning reminded me how lucky I am to have a ridiculously balanced life.  I was on the LIRR into Queens at 6am and was immediately reminded of why I left the city. Every one is rushing. Every one seems stressed.  Every one seems anxious.  And there I was, moseying along with my yoga mat and orange juice without a care in the world.

My most recent sappy beach read (yes... a beach read that I learned something from) really made me think about balance in life.  It’s more than just feeling like you’re on vacation in the Hamptons every day (though there is nothing better).  It’s about realizing what’s important. What will bounce back...and what won’t.

Here is the story the author tells...

“Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends, and integrity. And you’re keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls--family, health, friends, and integrity-- are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.  And once you truly understand the lesson of the five balls, you will have the beginnings of balance in your life.”

-James Patterson, Suzanne’s Diary for Nicholas

I love how he says, “ the beginnings of balance in your life”.  Understanding the lesson is not enough.  It’s a process.  It’s a continuous choice.  It takes constant awareness.  It takes checking back in.

So I’ve checked in with how my juggling act is going, and while I may think I’ve had an amazingly balanced life--- My life in the Hamptons has actually made me focus less on my family.  I have a tendency to get very caught up in the people here in front of me, and picking up the phone to call and check in is sometimes an after thought.  So this week away is less about relaxation, and more about family. No...it's all about my family.  Unplugging.  Being present with them.  Enjoying every moment with them.  Reconnecting and making amazing memories.

Check in on your juggling act.  Make sure it’s a good one and that you're not letting anything slip.

All my love,

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How badly do you want it?

 

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I hit a brick wall this week.  I wanted to quit.  You see, my friends and I have our half marathon coming up on Sunday.  On Friday, we went out for our last long run... a tough 12 miles around Central Park.  Around mile 10, I was starting to feel like quitting.  I was hungry, tired, and just sick of running up those treacherous hills in the park.

As my feet pounded the pavement, a quote popped into my head from my favorite book, The Last Lecture.

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”

-Randy Pausch

So there I was, running up that crazy, nonstop hill at 110th street, thinking to myself:

"Ok, Jenna...How badly do you want this? How badly do you want to complete your training strong and do this race?  How badly do you want to make it up this insane hill and feel proud, strong, and confident?"  I wanted it.  I want it badly enough to keep going, even though it hurt.

You can have it.  BUT, you have to want it.  And you have to want it bad.  From a relationship, to a job, to finally getting that Micheal Kors purse you've been salivating over--when you want something bad enough, you will find a way. 

I guess the question then is, how badly do you want it?

Check out this week's video for more insight and leave me a comment with your brick wall stories.

Have a great week!

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