There is only a little bit more time before the clock strikes midnight and we're diving head first into a bright new year! So much magic, promise and hope lingers in the air! (Hence...why I'm feelin like 'ella.) ;)I love fresh starts and I know that 2015 will bring a number of surprises and joys into your life. You can (and will!) create a life you love this year. The only caveat is that you must take some time now to prep for it.
Before you raise your glass of champagne, take some quiet time with your favorite cup of tea, a journal, and the fuzziest blanket you can find.
Relax. Take a deep breath. Begin to write.
How was 2014?
What worked? What didn't work?
What heartbreaks are you still holding onto?
What pains, what mistakes, what guilt are you clinging to?
Who are you not forgiving?
What failures are haunting you?
Acknowledge each and every one. Get it out in the open. Get it all out.
Then let it go.
Declare it to the universe--boldly and clearly:
I release ______________.
I let go of _____________.
Write those two phrases as often as you need to until it's all out--- until nothing lingers under the surface.
Then choose one word that describes how you want 2015 to feel.
Choose one powerful, positive, juicy, delicious, feel-good word.
There is so much power in your words.
Declare this intention for 2015:
In 2015, I feel _________________.
Write this wish, this intention, this declaration every and anywhere you might see it day to day. Write it in your journal. Write it beautifully. Display it on your nightstand, your fridge, in your car, on your bathroom mirror.
Let your goals in 2015 be motivated by this declaration. Move towards people, experiences, and activities that bring this declaration to the surface.
ENJOY this beautiful year ahead. Enjoy this sweet fresh start.
Wishing you everything wonderful, good, and lovely in 2015!
This is the season of letting go. A season of releasing, surrendering, and shedding. The leaves have let go. The harvest has let go. All of the earth is letting go, surrendering, shedding weight. Releasing the fruits of the seasons...good or imperfect.
Before we all get swept off our feet and into full force holiday mode, just take a day, a morning, a few moments to mirror what is happening in nature. Go to a yoga class. Take a nice long walk in nature. Enjoy a hot bath. Cozy up with your journal and a cup of tea. Just reflect.
What do you need to release in order to be fully present over the holidays? What do you need to let go of in order to find peace, joy, and gratitude? What do you need to surrender in order to feel a lightness in your heart?
Let go of those things that no longer serve you. Let go of those thoughts that only cause you pain. Let go of resentment. Let go of control.
Release and feel only gratitude.
Find a quiet spot and a comfortable seat. Gently close your eyes. Feel the inhale at the tip of your nose. The warmth of your exhale. Breathe deeply. Complete the sentence "I am grateful for___________ ." ten times (or more!). Let a sense of gratitude warm up your insides like a cozy cup of tea.
Feel, and move, and breathe from this warm place of gratitude this holiday season.
My philosophy and straight up passion is this idea of "Soul Shine". That we have a VERY specific set of talents and when they all come together, we can rock this world and change it for good. Yogis would call this your unique Dharma or path. When you are living from the center of your dharma, you've got it. Things come together and you are on fire! You are making waves and people start to sit up straight and pay attention. Things flow and you are in the zone. It's a rare thing these days because we are told over and over, 'You can be, do and have ANYTHING!" And while that is truer than ever, you're not meant to be, do and have everything. You are meant to be wholly, 100% you. You are meant to channel ALL of your gifts, because hello! That's a MAJOR clue from the universe that this is your path. If you're good at it, do more of it!
Yesterday, I was caught up in the world of Youtube and discovered a women who is living 100 million percent from the center of her dharma. She is on fire.
Have you heard of Robyn O'Brien? This woman is outstanding. She has taken her talents and background as a former financial and food industry analyst, and is now using it to charge forward and confront what's happening in our food system in this country. Her passion is undeniable and you can tell that with every ounce of who she is she has found her path and purpose. Her soul is shining bright and clear! I encourage you to watch her talk with Marianne Williamson entitled Food, Wellness and Politics. Her talk is about 30 minutes of the 2 hour discussion. Think of it as a soul study. Study her ease. Study her passion. Study her pure inner wisdom that knows this is her souls work. It's truly remarkable.
Wouldn't you love to be so on fire with a passion for change and to live every day utilizing your gifts for the betterment of our world?
No worries--you totally can! Here's a little exercise to get your soul working towards your dharma.
Grab yourself a piece of paper and pen. (I'm serious, don't just do this in your head.)
Answer the following questions:
Who are you? (This isn't a trick question...literally, what is your name?)
What do you love to do?
Who do you do those things for? (Or who could you do those things for?)
What do those people need or want?
How do they change or transform as a result of what you gave them?
Then put it all together. Here is an example:
My name is Jenna Raynell. I love to inspire and teach yoga to young women who need direction, inspiration, and confidence. As a result of my teaching, these women feel empowered to take action, shine brightly, and live from the center of their soul.
And there you have it! Your dharma, your passion, your project and purpose in this world. Of course, it is continually evolving and growing just as you are continually growing and evolving. But with that, I have the mission statement of my life. I can easily make decisions about careers, activities, and volunteer work by running it through my mission statement filter. If it's in alignment with my statement, it's a go!
Need help crafting your mission statement? Ready to share it with the world? Leave me a comment below! I'd love to help you out and hear your beautiful soul's mission on this earth!
Rubies, Sapphires, Diamonds, Gold. Valuable beyond compare. Precious. Sparkling. You have all these sparkling goodies housed right inside yourself---except they take the form of your passions, purpose, talents, and possibilities. Your treasure trove is just waiting and begging you to awaken it and share it with the world. So how do you do that? How do you bring forth your passion? How do you awaken your purpose? How do you share your talents and live life in sweet possibility?
Here are 5 quick tips to Awaken your inner treasure house:
1. You must recognize how critical this is. Your treasure trove is sacred. Your passions, talents and individual purpose is needed and needed badly by the world. Your design is specific. Your particular blend of talents is so unique that the world depends upon you harnessing them for the betterment of your community.
2. Make a LOVE LIST. Assess your talents. What comes naturally to you? What feels like play? What makes you light up? What would you do all day long if money were no issue? This can be a combination of many things! I love music, and inspiration, and yoga, and community, and social media, and singing, and spirituality! Multiple different talents that all blend together into my beautiful career. So make your LOVE LIST. What would you LOVE to do every day? What would you LOVE to spend your time on?
3. How can I use my LOVE LIST in service of others? How can I uplift and be of service? Our talents were design for us specifically, but they weren't designed to be kept to ourselves. Share them and share them generously! Your treasure trove has the power to heal, inspire, guide, and bless so many people. Give it away! What you give away, you receive back ten fold. Do not hesitate to be generous.
4. Do it full out. Live every day from the center of your calling every day. Live from your place of passion, live from the heart of your purpose, share your talents. Don't shrink back. Don't hide. Fully embody your passion & calling all the time. It is your greatest responsibility to live from the center of your treasure trove.
5. Be open to new possibilities that arise from living full out. Expect miracles to happen naturally. Things will start to happen. You will sparkle. You will glow. You will meet people. You will be offered dream opportunities. Be open. Say yes to those things that align beautifully and perfectly with your treasure trove. "When you bring what is within out into the world, miracles happen." - Thoreau
You are beautiful, sparkling, radiant, and glowing. Let out all of that beautiful and light into the world!
What is on your love list? Leave me comment below and tell me how you will use that in service of the world!
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Time for you to star in your soulful adventure.
Time for you to dive in and just say yes.
Create a plan and get going.
It's time for you to think like royalty. As the queen bee of inspiration said herself:
Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.
Your talents, gifts and passions are deeply needed in this world. You have the power to change the world AND live a life you love. You have a responsibility to your talents and a responsibility to use those talents in service of this great world.
It's not time to shrink back and hide from your magnificence. It's time to glow. Time to SHINE.
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Ok sweet soul--- what are you waiting for? What is holding you back from reaching deep down within yourself and shining that bright light to the world?
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Ever have those days (Or maybe weeks, or maybe months---perhaps even years!) where you are in a funk and you just can’t get out of it? I totally get it. Those days for me happen on rainy, dreary, sleepy days. (I’m sunshine, summer girl;)).
The funny thing is-- I wake up on rainy days and the first thing I think is “Gahh what a bummer! Where’s the sun?? I wanted to go to the beach, go for a bike ride, do yoga outside jump in the pool! Blah this stinks.” And the rest of my day turns out to pretty much be a bummer. If every day were like this, I would end up with a bummer-of-a-life!
If you’re having a bummer-of-a-day, check yo’ thoughts! Your thoughts color your world, your reality--your soul. Here are my go to pick me ups and resources for positive thoughts galore:
1. Get your sweet soul to a yoga class. (Seriously---yoga is my cure all for any less than colorful, less than beautiful thoughts. Even just a few poses that get me upside down turn my mind right side up.)
2. Get out that inspiring book. The one you can count on to bring some soul-shining goodness into your being. Read just a chapter, or even a few lines. I looove Marianne Williamson and have two of her books in arms reach almost at all times:) Usually one is kinda all crumpled in my purse;)
3. Find an uplifting movie to lift your spirits. Disney anyone? Tangled, Frozen, Up-- maybe an inspiring documentary that will make you weep with joy? Just make sure whatever you watch has a happy ending;)
4. Go for a walk. Even if it’s raining. The fresh air, nature, being closer to the earth will change your mood and freshen your soul. I always find that whenever I’ve been inside for more than 3 or 4 hours, I’m desperate to get outside. Just go:)
5. Embrace it. Every season, every mood has its benefits and happens for a particular reason. Make a cup of peppermint tea and stay awhile:)
What do you like to do when you're feeling down? How do you raise your vibrations and get your mind back on the beautiful side of life? I'd love to hear from you in the comments!
Do you ever feel like you can't relax? I've been in the Hamptons 4 days, and I'm just now finally starting to slow down my speed from hyper speed city life, to laid back beach living.
It's no surprise that when I first started practicing yoga seriously several years ago, Savasana always seemed difficult to me. "Just lie there? Don't do anything? What do you mean? Nothing? What is the point?" My brain would be in a battle with my teacher. I was never able to fully relax. And what did I find in my life at that time? I was anxious. I was unable to stop moving. I was unable to take a day off. I had to keep working because if I stopped, I would fall behind. I couldn't fall behind. Everything rested on the work I was doing, every day, every moment.
Or so I thought.
I was not getting anywhere. The things I worked so hard at and kept so busy with meant nothing after a while. I started realizing all of my goals had no real purpose. I kept coming to my mat because I kept finding purpose there. I kept finding meaning. I started craving the stillness. I started noticing how tired I actually was-- not just physically, but also mentally & emotionally. I was beaten up. The person who did the beating was me. I didn't give myself time to relax.
So last summer (as everyone in my life knows), I ran away to the beach. There in the sun of Egypt Beach in East Hampton, I developed my own daily practice. I woke up daily and biked to the deserted beach to practice. On my own, I let the sun and the crashing sound of the waves heal me. I forgave myself. Accepted myself. I challenged myself. And finally, I was able to lie completely still--mind still, body still-- in Savasana for 15 minutes. Total relaxation.
I had never taken a meditation course. I had never been told that the point of yoga was to still & prepare the mind for meditation. But on that quiet beach with waves crashing & sun glowing, my natural inclination was to sit tall, still and without constant badgering of my mind. I felt the closest to God in that one moment than any other moment in my life. That moment brings me back to my mat daily. Savasana is the game changer. Being totally in Savasana brings me right back to that blissful beach moment with God.
How can you bring more Savasana to your life? How can you disconnect from the chaos and reconnect to that which matters most? How can you find a few quite moments with your soul?
It's something I have to consciously work towards every week, every day. But it is so, so worth it:) Yoga bliss happens in Savasana. Life bliss happens when you slow down enough to notice how beautiful and wonderful things really are.
Wishing you a day of bliss and peace as you prepare for the *unofficial* start to summer this weekend!
There is something beautiful and magical in this spring air! Do you feel it?? To me, everyone seems to be buzzing with new ideas and beautiful dreams and big goals. I am just SO excited to see what you create this glorious season and hope that the freshness in the air is sending you soaring.
I'm in the same boat, so I am going to keep this short, sweet and simple.
Whatever you're feeling: fear, excitement, joy, anticipation, massive flushes of creativity, timidness, uncertainty (probably a mixture of all of it!)
Getting your dreams out of your head and into the world takes one, solid thing:
I'm certain you have 101 questions, and 101 more uncertainties...but the only way to find clarity in your goals, dreams, and creative desires is to simple begin. Start before you feel ready.
You don't have to have your entire business mapped out before you begin to create it. You don't have to have a complete action plan in place. You don't have to be 100% sure where you're headed (at least not yet:)).
Start small. Start strong. Start with courage. And start to let the shiny sparks of your soul glow.
Maybe you just sell one scarf you made...maybe you sell 20! Maybe you finally sign up for twitter and share things that inspire you. Maybe you share your goal with 3 people. Just start somewhere.
Chances are...you will be left astonished. Magic will start to happen. Things will fall into place. Clarity will be found.
You have such a beautiful idea and something that comes from such a heart felt place. People are craving things of the heart. So let it out and let the world see it. When you shine bright, you call forth more light and more passion and more shining souls.
I'm so excited for you:)You're doing great.
Got a burning question you just need answered now? Leave it in the comments and I'll get it answered so you can get going!:)
I'm sure I'm not the only grown up who cozy-ed up on Saturday night to watch Disney's Frozen from the comfort of my own home. (Woo! What a relief it's finally on DVD!) Watching any Disney princess movie, I have a natural tendency to try to apply the situations and lesson to my own life (because... aren't we all really one of those Disney princesses in one way or another? I mean... You totally know which one you are. Ariel? Rapunzel? Belle?).
Here are the 5 lessons I learned watching Frozen:
1. Let People In
It’s not always easy to let people see the real you, but cooping yourself up in your room, your castle--or a personality that is not authentically you-- can seriously damage relationships. Let people in. Let them see the real you--because who you are is amazing, fun, and magical. A queen that is holed up in her castle acts as a disservice to her kingdom. YOU are a queen, a princess, royalty. When you let your light shine, you allow your community (your kingdom) to shine bright as well. Let them in. Let your #soulshine.
2. Let things go
Ahhh... Adele Dazim. You’ve made it so easy for us to remember one of the greatest life lessons! Taught over and over in yoga classes, the art of letting things go frees us from so much pain and unhappiness. You may have messed up. Your whole city or company or family may be angry at you. Maybe your sister is marrying a creep. You may have a million negative thoughts running through your head. Learn to let go of those things that do not serve you--those things that are keeping your from your best life.
3. Don’t let your past mistakes shape your future
In Frozen, the entire movie is based around Elsa’s inability to let go of one mistake in her past. Sure, she messed up (and she messed up reeeeally good), but our mistakes and our past do not need to define us. Once you are able to release the past, you can live fully in the present and be with the people that are here with you. Don’t let the past keep you from creating new and beautiful experiences for your life.
4. Love creates Miracles
Every move we make, every word we speak can either come from love or from fear. The Course in Miracles teaches that when we shift our thinking from fear to love, that is when miracles occur. Anna shows us that love--true, pure love absent of fear-- saves us. In every situation, the extreme life threatening situations or the every day, seemingly mundane ones, we can choose love or we can choose fear. The goal then is to make every thought a loving one.
5. Some people are worth melting for
A snow man who loves summer and builds a fire for his princess. There are just some people you meet in life that you can’t resist. You melt for them daily-- over and over again. Don't ever stop! Do nice things for them. Tell them how much they mean to you. Spend time with them. Love them deeply. Cherish them. Melt for them.
Did you learn something else in Frozen? Ok and yes... please tell me which Disney princess you relate to most. Share your thoughts in the comments:)
The seen is the nature of the gunas (qualities of nature): illumination, activity, and inertia; and consists of the elements and sense organs, who purpose is to provide both experiences and liberation to the Purusa (soul).
The Yoga Sutras
This winter was the hardest and longest winter I’ve ever experienced. I went from cursing the sleet and snow, to deep sadness and longing for warmth. Then I would switch from frustration, to anger until finally--after the blustering winds wouldn’t stop...I became content, even happy! I made a conscious choice to lift my focus higher--to the soul level.
All that is around us is there to help us towards our soulful liberation--our soul’s union with God and with love.
So in the dark of winter, I made the choice that I was tired of feeling the way I was feeling. I was tired of cursing my conditions. I began to meditate and pray every morning...not even for a long time! Just a few minutes to get my mind in the right place. I started a gratitude journal. I focused on positive mantras throughout my day and my yoga practice. Every time a negative thought came to mind, I would switch it instantly with a blessing.
And now, I hardly even notice that it’s the first day of spring and I’m still wearing my down, long black winter coat. (I mean... I definitely notice... but I’m not upset by it;))
Our experiences--good and seemingly negative-- help to liberate our soul. Our soul only feels free when it is light and full of love. This happens when we perceive all that is around us with gratitude and joy. Yes, even the experiences that scratch and claw at our hearts leaving us sore and hurt. Those heart wrenching, utterly painful experiences exist to strengthen your soul. In fact, they are doing the dirty work to make your soul even more beautiful, even more aligned with God and with pure love.
Nothing lasts forever. Things are constantly changing, constantly bringing to our attention new experiences, new trials, new joys. True freedom comes when we are able to live through those experiences without despair. In fact, peace comes when despair is replaced with gratitude because we know that all of it--the pain, the heartache, the tears, the bitter cold--it’s all for our own growth, our highest good, and the elevation of our souls to a shining, bright place.
And that is my wish for you. True freedom in knowing that all the terrible things will get better and that YOU will shine brighter because of it.
I'm so excited to introduce to you, Kaitlyn! This girl is on fire and you can feel the heat when you watch her dance. Her spirit shines through every step and movement! When are you doing what you love, it truly shines from your soul and people can't help but notice.
My name is Kaitlyn Miller and I am currently 18 years old. I am a freshman in college at DeSales University in Center Valley PA. I am double majoring in dance and business and plan to attend graduate school for Dance Administration. I hope to work and teach at a college and own a studio on the side. I have been dancing since I was able to walk and competitively danced for 16 years before entering college. Dance has opened many doors for me and lead me to compete in pageants. After four years if hard work and determination I was crowned Miss Pennsylvania’s Outstanding Teen 2012. Having this title, I was able to attend over 120 appearances and perform for thousands of people. Dance holds a special place in my heart and I hope to pass that along to others in the future.
What makes you shine? When do you glow?
I absolutely love performing on stage or even in class. I believe dance is a beautiful art to watch and I try to enlighten people about dance as much as possible. Dance has a unique power to capture audiences and I hope to have the opportunity to perform professionally in the future. I also have the opportunity to perform while competing in pageants, under the Miss America system, which has a huge spot in my heart that will never go away. Pageantry has taught me self-confidence and has provided me with skills in interview, modeling, and so much more. I feel I shine most when I am performing in front of a huge audience because I am able to leave my love for dance on the stage before them.
What do you LOVE to do? What is your passion?
Dance has been my passion since I have been 2 years old and I don’t think that will ever change. Dance is something that has been popular throughout my whole family, for many generations before me. I think it is a family tradition that no one can escape. I just simply love to dance! I get to dance every day of the week for about 7-8 hours a day. I believe attending DeSales was the best decision I have ever made! I also became a dance major so I can learn to appreciate the art of dance rather than just the competitive side and become more experienced in different styles such as West African which is not offered at many studios. It is very important to extend your studies and learn from new teachers and that is one reason why I chose DeSales. The faculty is very well-trained and the other dance majors are so friendly.
When are you the happiest?
I am happiest when I am in the studio working my hardest. I especially love staying after class to work on steps I am having trouble with. This makes me feel accomplished and hard work and dedication really pay off.
What inspires you?
I am inspired by so many things and people! The students and peers around me during class inspire me to keep working hard and push myself to limits. Past graduates inspire me to plan my future and have a backup plan prepared. Finally, my family inspires me to create big dreams and no matter what comes up just push through!
What is your big goal?
Some of my biggest goals that I am currently working towards is being cast in all our major shows, maintaining a GPA of an A or higher and staying involved in our clubs and organizations. These goals all deal with my schooling, but I also have a few goals outside of school. My main goals outside the classroom are to be a Disney Princess, become Miss Pennsylvania and work on a cruise ship. I am a very goal-oriented person because I feel they push me to keep working!
Who is your biggest influence?
My biggest influence would have to be my family because of their constant support. They are my backbone and help me accomplish all my goals in life! They always believe in me and are my biggest fans! I wouldn’t know what to do without my family!
I am so excited to share with you the light and beauty of my friend Nikki! Upon meeting her, you know she is up to something as she glows from the inside out. When are you doing what you love, it shines from your soul (and people can't help but notice).
Originally from Rochester, Nikki moved to NYC when she was 18 years old. She had to learn the ropes of how to get connected in the Broadway community and has now been a musical theatre performer for 17 years. She has performed on Broadway and in National Tours, and has played all of the US in regional productions. You may have seen her high kick at Radio City Music Hall as a Rockette. Nikki has danced with the Backstreet Boys, Jessica Simpson, and N’Sync. Now, she's transitioning out of the business and is working for Stage Door Connections, a career developing company that provides seminars and workshops to dancers and singers on how to perfect their craft.
What makes you shine?
Being on stage. There’s something about that feeling when I step foot onto a stage and can get lost in my dancing. It’s what gets me up in the morning and has always made me shine from within.
When do you glow?
When I teach someone a show and see the progression in their learning. Having them come up to me and say “Thank You” and “I feel more confident”, always makes me glow.
What do you love to do?
Besides Dance….COOKING! I love and have the biggest passion for cooking. I’ve been in the kitchen learning from my Grandma and Mom since I was real little, and I love going home and cooking a meal for my boyfriend and I. I also LOVE going to cooking classes in the city and learning a new cuisine.
When are you the happiest?
Sunday night, at home with my boyfriend and our animals, enjoying a glass of wine, and watching Breaking Bad. Complete bliss.
What inspires you?
People who always want more with their career. I am not a settler with any of my jobs. I always want more and try to surround myself with people who are always growing and learning.
What is your big goal?
This is a personal BIG Goal: I travel to Europe by September 2014. I’ve never been to Europe and I can’t wait to take a trip!
Who is your biggest influence?
My boyfriend. He inspires me in so many ways. He has taught me so much about life and love, but has also influenced me to step out of my comfort zone and go after a new career.
Are YOU doing what you love? Does your soul shine?
Tell me what makes you glow in the comments! Every week, I will be featuring a new soulshine[r] and telling their story.
Do you know someone who's soul shines? Nominate them by leaving a comment below!
Lately I’ve been drawn to this [i believe made up] word. A word that describes your spirit when you are living out your dream.
What is it? It is those moments when you are undeniably happy, glowing, and radiate light. It’s this place in you of pure love, pure joy, and pure purpose. When you are living in this place, you are influencing the world in a huge way. It’s your soul awake, you're fully alive, and you can't help but smile. It’s your life--on purpose. It’s that thing that you are reeeally good, and that you reeeeally love too--and it makes people stop and notice that your glowing. They can see your eyes shining.
The cool thing is that living out of your Soulshine is perfectly unique and perfectly beautiful for each person. It’s like you’ve been given an internal fingerprint that no one else has. When you are letting your soul shine, you give others permission to do the same thing. You give others hope. You show them that yes, it can be done. This passionate life you dream of? Yes, it’s totally possible.
My dream is to see more people living from their “soulshine”. I think the world would change drastically if more people tapped into their talents, passions, and abilities. Problems would be solved left and right. We’d be left with love, and light--beauty and grace--and a whole lot of happiness.
So... I really want to know more people who are living like this. Are you one of them? Do you know someone like this?
What is your soulshine?
What makes you light up? When are you glowing?
When do you know that you are living your life on purpose?
What is your big, beautiful dream for your life?
For realz...I want the world to know, because I want the world to begin letting it's soul shine!
I’m going to celebrate these people from the rooftops! Here’s what’s going to happen:
Once a week, I will be featuring a soulshine(r) on my Facebook Page, Blog, and blasting twitter with their good vibes andgood intentions. It's a fun way for you to share what you're up, share your big goals, and inspire the world! Win wins all around:)
Just leave a comment or shoot me an email. Tell me more about you! I will be selected one person per week to feature, so please do me a favor and share this with others you think live letting their soul shine.
Single? Girl, I totally get it! Today can be a rough day.
Let me tell you... I have spent the larger portion of my life single (like...literally every Valentine’s Day except one) and every year the 14th was a struggle.
I’m confident. I don’t doubt myself. I love myself. And yes I know it’s a made up holiday. But every year, 2-14 would make me question my worth and if I’d ever be loved and cherished on this arbitrary day.
Single or not...I think we all need to hear these words:
Beauty, you are loved. You are cherished. You are priceless. You are desired and needed and the world is waiting for your light to shine. You light up when you do what you love, and you are bursting with passion. You are beautiful..powerful...strong. You deserve love and approval and support. And you will have it.
Recognize the light inside of you and realize how desperately it is needed. You are meant for great things. Meant to leave an impact. You are a queen, a goddess...royalty. Do not waste one minute falling into the pit of self pity, self loathing, despair, and doubt. All that you are is needed for something much greater. Every ounce of energy is needed to perfect your role as a radiant light to the world.
Do not let fear creep in. Do not let doubt get in the way. Do not hide your love any longer. Shine your light, glow from the center of your unique and cherished heart. Radiate love to those trapped in that pit of fear, doubt, and pain. You, shining in all your glory and exploding with love, remind others what is possible for themselves. Do not let one day--one arbitrary day--ruin your impact or dim your light.
Give away what you wish to receive. Give away love. Give away sweet words. Give away acts of kindness and thoughtfulness. Give away peace, security, support, and passion. I promise you’ll get it all back (and more)!
You are a beacon. You glow. You shine. You draw people in. You show them that their hearts and minds and souls can be beautiful too--that they can be bursting with love, light and gold.
Celebrate love today. Love is all there is and love is all that matters. Love drives out all the nasty stuff, and reminds us why we’re here. Look around... Prince charming might not be knocking down your door with roses today, but you are so very, very loved:)
Alright so I’ve been on the struggle bus when it comes to the winter blues. I am self proclaimed summer girl and wildly acknowledged people person. Around this point, winter in New York becomes my worst enemy. In aggressively defending myself against the polar vortex this year, I’ve learned some easy tricks to beat winter at it’s own [evil] game.
1. Surround yourself with happy friends
I can’t tell you how important this is and it’s also sometimes the hardest to do. It’s way too easy to isolate yourself when it’s cold and you don’t want to go outside. So think of the friends you always feel good around, and schedule plans with them for later this week! Heck, why not have good old fashioned slumber party! A night of laugher cures everything. Get a group of old friends together and reminisce about college. Maybe even embrace the cold, and go ice skating together or sledding! I promise you, surrounding yourself with good, positive, energetic people will lift your spirits more than almost anything.
2. Take a hot yoga class
This has been my staple this winter. I go to a typical vinyasa class regularly, but this winter I’ve been turning up the heat in hot classes. Sometimes you just can’t get that last chill out of your bones. Not only will a hot yoga class heat you up, but it will lift your spirit and leave you in pure bliss. Namaste:)
3. Take up a new hobby
Get your fingers and your mind active. It’s easy to curl up into bed and watch Netflix for 4 hours. Instead, put on a tea pot and paint for an afternoon. Grab a fun coloring book and colored pencils. Learn to knit. Write letters to family. Your mind, whether your realize it or not, is craving stimulation. Activities that use your motor skills will keep your brain sharp.
4. Treat yourself
Get your hair highlighted. Go to a spa. Get a massage. Paint your nails. Do a facial. Put a conditioning treatment in your hair. Splurge on a new luxury lotion. Do something to make yourself feel good, special and better. Winter is the time I am the hardest on myself and feel the worst. Giving your self time to pamper will lift your spirits.
5. Start the day with a positive affirmation or positive thought
Our first thoughts in the morning can [and will] affect our entire day. Instead of thinking how awful it is to get out of bed and get dressed in the cold, reflect on something more positive. Dedicate the first moments of your day positivity, miracles, and wonder. Spend time in prayer. Repeat a positive mantra. Meditate on lovely things. Reflect on what you’re grateful for. Arm your spirit with good, positive, lovely things and the harshness of the winter will roll right off your back.
What do you do to beat the winter blues? Share your ideas in the comments and let’s all fight through the remaining winter days together!
There is a woman out there in the world, about my age, who is living and breathing and working my dream career. She is funny and cool and creative and people just love her! I have thought to myself many a times, “Well if she’s doing it, what’s the point of me even trying? Does the world really need two of us doing the same thing? Can we even both shine and be extraordinary at this?” In the back of my mind, she is always there and in those secret, sneaky corners of my brain, I compare my every action to what she’s doing and what she’s done. Whether or not it's true, I always think she’s doing a better job!!
Do you ever feel like this?!
Call me out if I’m crazy, but I think we have tendency to constantly compare, beat ourselves down, and stop all the magic from happening for us!
Friday night, I had the lucky opportunity to attend Crazy Sexy Miracles with Gabby Bernstein and Kris Carr right here in New York City. It was an extraordinarily beautiful night of healing, laughter, “ah-ha” and “Mmmhmmmm!” moments. I sat there in awe of these two beautiful, passionate, strong women who were able to share a stage and both shine so brightly.
At one point, someone even directly asked them a question about how to deal with comparing and competition. Kris Carr, calmly and serenely answered:
“Stars don’t compare themselves to other stars. Look to nature. How do the stars do it?”
Ok let’s look to the stars for a moment. How do they do it!? Well, what comes to mind is how nice it is to see just one star shining on a dark night in between buildings in New York. Then I imagine being way far out in the country side where it is pitch black, and quiet and still and I finally look up! How incredibly breathtaking is it to see thousands and thousands of stars lighting up the night sky?! You stand in awe. You can hardly take it all in. Then there are shooting stars, and dancing stars, and glowing stars-- The entire landscape is just gorgeous.
We’re not meant to compare our gifts.
Our gifts, our talents, our passions--they’re special and perfect and needed--needed to create this gorgeous landscape of glowing hearts and shiny souls. When we are all able to shine, and dance, and gleam and glow without comparison, side by side... wow!! It’s going to be such a beautiful sight.:)
Are you with me?! How are you going to shine brighter this week and stop that nasty habit of comparing?
Let’s do a little check in!! How is your sparkling new year going?! How are those goals, those resolutions, and healthy habits?
Not so great? Well don’t you worry. I was just rereading a chapter from one of my fav Marianne Williamson books and I was reminded of these four simple rules to make miracles happen. I’m all about makin miracles and magic happen, so I decided to adopt these rules as my theme for the year. Check them out!
1. Be Positive.
Positive people are just the BEST! Let’s live on the sunny side of the street, spread joy, and lift people’s spirits. Not only is it just way more fun than the alternative, but did you ever notice how positive people tend to get promoted, get offered new jobs, and get new opportunities? Positivity is contagious. Everybody wants a piece of it and everybody wants to be around it. Be the bright beam that everybody gravitates towards this year!
2. Send Love.
Love is seriously the best thing you can give another person. Romance or not (and lord knows I looooove romance), sharing love---even if it’s just a mental hug--can shift some big stuff. I remember way back in the day when I was teaching, I would think of my “tricky” students and blast them with love before I would arrive at school. Not only did it change my attitude towards them, but it changed our whole teacher/student relationship! The “tricky” people in our life just need a little more love. So give it to them!
3. Have funnnn!!!
Yes! Yes! Let’s ALL agree to have waaaay more fun this year!! Life is so short and I don’t want to waste another second not having the time of my life. Dance in the streets! Sing with that steel drum player guy in the Subway at Times Square! Stay up too late chatting with your girlfriends over wine [or dude friends...Uhh...grunt at football games over beer?] Enjoy this crazy ride we’re on. We’re not getting any younger;)
4. Kick Ass.
Whatever you do, kick ASS doing it. Whatever job you’re in, be freakin amazing at it. I don’t care if you’re a janitor, be the BEST janitor this side of the universe has ever SEEN! No being flakey. No being lame about meaningless tasks. Put all your energy into making the work you do AMAZING and more of the work that you care about will come your way. It’s science;)
So those are my commitments to this sparkling year! Sheer positivity, endless love, insane amounts of fun, and lots of kick ass-ing. Whatya say? Are you in? Leave me a comment and share your commitments for the year!
Ok, I have a confession. I failed at my New Years Resolution within the first THREE hours of the new year! I only mildly, vaguely, kinda sorta committed to the idea of being a vegetarian in 2014. So in the midst of champagne celebrations on New Years Eve, I was handed a chicken sandwich and my resolution was out the door.
Alright, so resolutions shmesolutions. Nobody likes them! They don’t work. You end up just giving up when you feel a little depressed about failing at them so quickly. What does actually work and is super exciting is goals! Setting a few clear, specific, and inspiring goals will change your year-- and your entire life.
I need to lose this extra weight from the holidays is soooo not inspiring to me. Blah. Ick. Get it away.
I try out three new classes every week or My boyfriend and I cook a new vegetarian meal together every Friday. Uhh...excuse me but those goals actually sound pretty fun!
We are going to make 2014 the BEST year--the year you start living your dreams and having tons of fun. I’m going to help you a bit. Here are three simple steps to help you elevate this year to the next level of awesome.
Get crystal clear on what your dream year and dream life actually looks like. You can’t expect it to fall out of the sky, because even if it did--you wouldn’t recognize it because you don’t know what it is you want! Take some time (like we’re talking 10 minutes), sit down and make a list. Draw a picture. Create a board on pinterest. Do some honest soul searching. What does your ideal life, your ideal year really look like? By ideal, I’m talking wildest dreams. Endless possibility. Nothing is too crazy, too bold, too risky. It’s your year to start being honest with yourself and start living like you mean it.
Where do you dream of living? What do you daydream about doing for work? Do you want to travel? Where do you want to go? How do you take care of yourself? Do you wish you could run a marathon? Do you want to feel like you belong to a community? What does that look like to you? What do you want to do for fun? What is important to you? What do you value? What have you always wanted to try? Heck...what would you do if you won a million dollars tomorrow?
Once you know what it is you really want, you can start setting some inspiring goals for yourself! Goals give you a target, that clear, specific spot to set your aim towards and ultimately reach. Goal setting sets your dreams into motion and gets your creative, subconscious brain moving in the right direction, YOUR direction. Your goals are 100% authentic to you and inspire you to take action. Brian Tracy (goal setting guru that he is) says that, “People with clear, written goals accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine. Goals allow you to control the direction of change in your favor.” Sounds pretty awesome, right?
I’m going to be delving a WHOLE lot more into goal setting, bucket lists, and dreams during my New Year’s Vision and Goals workshop during Hamptons Wellness Week (www.hamptonswellnessweek.com). I hope you’ll join me then so we can get super clear, specific and inspired for 2014!
Finally, the NUMBER one thing you need to do to make 2014 your BEST year yet, is to get into action now! Your dreams, goals and visions for your life are so beautiful and so perfect. The only way the world will ever see your greatness is if you choose greatness today. Choose to show up for yoga class. Choose to read that book, write that book, or give away that book! Choose to eat your broccoli, kale and green beans. Choose to spend time with the people who matter to you. Choose to sign up for that race. All it takes is one teeny tiny small action a day to bring you closer to your wildest dreams. You are what’s going to take your year to the next level. So many adventures are waiting, so many melt your heart snapshot moments, and so many “hell yeah, I did that!”s are just beyond these initial footsteps. Commit to choosing your dream life, and you will have it. It’s going to be an awesome year!!
Can’t wait to see you January 16th to talk more about your goals and to set you up with an action plan for the year! See you soon!
Woo! It’s time to celebrate! A new year is on it’s way! Every one I talk to has a good feeling about 2014. It’s going to be an incredible year...and so I’ve put together a little exercise to get you thinking about your new year now and to fully set yourself up for success in 2014.
Take ten minutes to quickly answer the next series of questions. Set a time limit and do not spend more than 30 seconds on each. Your first reaction is the right one. Here we gooo!
What was your greatest joy in 2013?
What unexpected pleasures and people came into your life?
What was your greatest disappointment?
What are you bummed you didn’t accomplish?
Who did you hurt over the past year?
What would you do if you won a million dollars?
What is your most important goal right now?
What would you do if you knew this was your last year to live?
What have you always wanted to try but never have?
As we move into a new year, it is important to recognize the good and the bad from the year before. A fresh start involves a whole lot of forgiveness and letting go. So look those bruises and blisters from 2013 in the eye. Forgive yourself. Forgive the people who did you wrong. Take a deep breath and let it all go. Leave 2013 where it belongs.
Stepping into 2014, how can you bring your goals to the forefront of your mind and your life? How will you take action to make them happen? Set up a game plan. Create a schedule. Register for that big race. Don’t wait. Do it now.
What have you been waiting and waiting to do? What has been a dream of yours for a long time? Where do you desperately want to go? And how can you make that happen this year?
Time is all you’ve got. One year is all you’ve got. What will you make happen for yourself in the next 365 days?
If you need a kick in the butt getting it together, I’m totally here for you! We can sit down and create an awesome, inspiring, gorgeous action plan to make 2014 the BEST year of your life. That’s all I want for you.
I am also holding a Vision and Goals Workshop during Hamptons Wellness Week! Check out all the details at www.hamptonswellnessweek.com. It's going to be an amazing week and I'd love to see you there!
You’re incredible! Have a beautiful New Year’s Eve! I’ll toast to your dreams at mid-night;)